“Will You Be a Prince’s Bridesmaid/Groomsman?”

Matthew 25:1-13

First Presbyterian Church

Reverend Donald Ray

November 9 , 2006

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We have a photograph of my late father and mother-in-law, taken the night of our wedding after Karen and I had left on our honeymoon. They were in their dining room, surrounded by our wedding gifts and decorations left for them and others in our wedding party to clear from the church. The photo shows Carl and Carol leaning on waist tall brass candlesticks, exaggerating, but only a little, the look of sheer exhaustion.

Weddings are hard work for those intimately involved in the planning and preparation of the celebration. Family members and those honored by a place in the wedding party take responsibility for a multitude of decisions and tasks. Waiting while the photographer spirits the couple away to some ideal setting or when the couple is working the room greeting their guests, it is not uncommon to find bridesmaids lolling,  shoes off, dresses askew; ushers out for a breath of air, coats off, bow ties and cumber bunds discarded. But tired or not, there is always still more expected and they have to step up and carry though.

A wedding is hard work, but a wedding is also a joyous time. A wedding celebrates love. A wedding is built on hope. Alexander Shaia here last weekend identified the origin of the Gospel of Matthew in the village of Antioch at the time of the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem and the annihilation of the Jewish priestly tribes. In his structure of the four paths, change, trial, joy, and service, Shaia locates Matthew in the path of change.

As we come to the close of this church year texts in Matthew, we read of Jesus speaking and telling parables—stories of transition from the old established ways.  A month ago our parable was about a Prince’s wedding which the invited guests declined to attend. A second guest list had to be prepared and circulated.

This morning, we are back at the wedding again. The intervening material contains Matthew’s apocalyptic  signs interpreted and reinterpreted by many yet today as portents of cataclysmic destruction. But instead of fire and earthquakes, Matthew takes us to a wedding. Matthew takes us to a Prince’s wedding—because while realistic about the stress and struggles of change, Matthew is a Gospel of the hope in faith.

In October, after our reading of the first wedding parable, several of you spoke to me of your puzzling about the eviction of the guest lacking proper attire. In this second parable we have the apparent selfish, ungracious refusal of the five bridesmaids to share their lamp oil with those without. What happened to the Christian spirit of giving to those in need.

It’s still there, just not the point of these parables.  The ten bridesmaids had equal opportunity. In times of change and disruption, taking benefit in the resources of faith is vital for all serving in the party of the kingdom. If weddings are hard work for those intimately involved, marriage is even harder. On that long road of growing together, it takes all we have to love and share and give and trust.

President-elect Obama, thanking his supporters thronging Grant Park in Chicago on election night said:

“I know you didn’t do this just to win an election. You did it because you understand the enormity of the task that lies ahead. Even as we celebrate tonight, we know that the challenges that tomorrow will bring are the greatest of our life time—two wars, a planet in peril, the worst financial crisis in a century.

This victory alone is not the change we seek—it is only the chance for us to make that change. And that cannot happen if we go back to the way things were. It cannot happen without you.

The true strength of our nation comes not from the might of our arms or the scale of our wealth, but from the enduring power of our ideals: democracy, liberty, opportunity, and unyielding hope” (1)

For too long too much of the Church’s energy has been expended in seeking to align events of the present with the earthquakes and famines, sacrilege, war, and false prophets cautioned against in Scripture. Far too much of the Church’s energy has been wasted in such pursuits because the chance of the planet and most of us still being here tomorrow is far more likely than not. What then do we do with tomorrow?  That is the question we must be prepared to address with our lamps fueled to light the way.

Two wars have gone on and on and on and on and still go on. Financial structures in which our culture is intertwined and dependent  have collapsed. We live in a time of change. But today’s change is nothing compared to the drama of relentless and total destruction and genocide Matthew’s readers endured. And Matthew writes, there’s a wedding and the most unlikely have been invited and the hall is filled so the wedding party need be prepared to celebrate with the prince.

The wedding goes on because the love of God is still united with all of creation. Having our lamps fueled with love in faith and hope and joy and peace;

as we need to realign the use of strained resources, the light of generosity toward those in need will not go out.

Having our lamps fueled with love in faith and hope and joy and peace;

as we live with the pain and suffering inflicted by a violent, warring culture, the light of forgiving and peace will not go out.

as we are pressed from all sides and time would drive us to despair, the light of hope that keeps us faithful to our course will not go out.

Having our lamps fueled with love in faith and hope and joy and peace;

as we are entangled in questions and doubts fired by attempts at certainty where there is no certainty, the light of faith and trust will not go out.

The Church has a vital call in these and all times of change. That call is not to be leaders of an evacuation from a doomed planet to some galactic new Jerusalem. There is a wedding—There is the union between God’s love and all creation. We are the wedding party carrying the lamp of hope that lights the way to bring renewed life.

I had the fleeting thought that we could stage a wedding processional to dramatize the parable this morning. But I realized we made our way to the front of the Sanctuary to vote for First Presbyterian Church two weeks ago making our stewardship commitment. Then last Sunday there was that that moving procession to light candles in memory of our loved ones.

A staged procession to illustrate a parable just wouldn’t make it. In this congregation, we are too accustomed to genuine participation in the experience of worship to be satisfied with dramatization for the sake of dramatization. So, no wedding procession this morning, but then worship is not yet concluded so, be prepared.

In every time of change—in every crisis that threatens all we hold as steady and sure, the word echoes: “Then the kingdom of heaven will be like this.” (Matthew 25:1a) We live in the wedding that is the kingdom—the reign of God’s love in life. Will we be the Prince’s bridesmaids/Groomsmen with our lamps trimmed and burning?

  (1)   Excerpts from the Victory Address delivered by President-elect Barak Obama in Grant Park, Chicago , IL , Nov. 4, 2008

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